Well, whatever position you want to assume is your call; just don't be worrying about if he calls you after. Luckily, being HIV-positive doesn't make you very special in the gay community anymore.
However, under the close supervision of a good physician, you and your partner can be safely sexually active.
If you need more help or want to talk about risks and options further, reach out to your health care provider or your partner's HIV specialist.
Dear Alice, I recently began dating a guy who is HIV positive.
I know how it is transmitted and the risks involved, but I was wondering if there are any statistics out about being infected in my similar situation.
How high are my chances of contracting it if we are careful?