The Native American dating customs get a bit more complicated if the girl does not choose to blow out the light.
If she does not blow it out then he will try to woo her more the next day.
The family becomes more involved in the choice of a mate although the woman is given a choice.
This is a beautiful courting ritual which was used by many native Americans in time past in pursuit of a happy marriage.
Waking her up he then uses the light to illuminate his own face so she can see who he is.
If she is happy with him she is to blow out his light and the next day he will be a part of the family.
After the mothers have been spoken to the young man is told he is allowed to come to the lodge.