Martin says: There’s a trick question I often tell my (dating) clients: Q: When do you know if a Japanese girl will go on a date with you? Men assume foreign women are more outgoing and direct (which sucks when you aren’t).
It’s ok to ask to hang out “as friends” knowing that y’all are more than “Just friends.” Approaching – use a lot of facial expressions and gestures, be animated – engagement without just language!
If you’ve been Japan for more than 5 seconds and had any interaction with the opposite sex here, you’ll no doubt have already experienced some “Lost in translation” style mishaps from smashing against the language barrier and cultural differences.
Japanese culture is at times pretty much the exact reverse of western culture.
How can you tell if a girl/guy likes you in a country where ‘yes’ can mean ‘no’?
Or read peoples’ emotions where pretty much no-one wears their heart on their sleeve?
Many times it’s a lot more like a coffee date than a language exchange.