I forget who told me this, but she said it was the best advice she had ever received and came from her dad and mom.
Both her parents really liked the man she was marrying, and the church was filled with family and friends.
They didn't care how her decision looked to others, they cared about her well being.1) Know each other for four consecutive seasons, at least a year, before marrying.
A grandmother married over 40 years always asked her daughters, "Don't think about getting engaged to him until you have seen him angry and seen how he handles his anger." This fits with know each other for long enough to see each other at your worst before making significant decisions.
There is another piece of wisdom: Do not give up your place and move in together until you have an engagement ring and a wedding date.