They're going to understand a submissive or slave, especially one new to the Lifestyle is going to be hesitant, shy and uncertain.
They're not going to offer ultimatums such as, "if you don't do this, you're obviously not a submissive or slave".
Most importantly, they are going to have a knowledge and understanding of the most basic cornerstones of any Dominant submissive or Master slave relationship, which are Communication, Trust, Respect and Honor(honesty).
No, Dominants are not all Teddy Bears, nor are they all the image of a harsh, overbearing Viking so don't start looking at Dominants with a preconceived notion of what every Dominant or Master is like.
If you enter a place and immediately outlandish demands are made of you, seemingly impossible tasks or expectations are established, it's time to take a second look!