The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.
The purpose is to determine exactly when the relationship began, whether it is sexual, whether any marital property has been transferred to the new friend, such as by gift, how much money was spent on dating this person, and whether the spouse has said anything that could be used against him or her at trial.
This is difficult, but passing them over might mean passing over someone great!
While dating a divorced man may pose special problems, don’t just reject this group of guys outright.
If your guy is newly separated and in the process of getting the divorce finalized, you might want to check out Dating Advice: You, Him, and Not Quite Ex Wife!
for extra advice on the special challenges a not-yet-divorced man poses.
So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.